Today’s Music: Louis Armstrong – What A Wonderful World
Note on Today’s Music: Shouldn’t it be, for everyone?
A lot happens in October.
It’s the first full month of autumn, and temperatures and the environment really start to change to match the season.
Halloween comes around, as does Thanksgiving for those in Canada.
There are also a few other things, at least as important.
The first full week of October is National Mental Illness Awareness Week (Oct. 7-13, 2012). You can find out more about it HERE.
What does that mean? Well, try and take a few minutes to consider those that do have mental illnesses.
Wonder if they – except for one hit of bad luck – are any different than you. And if giving a bit of compassion, instead of crossing the street or cutting off contact with “the crazy person”, might not be a better way to go.
Statistics say a full 25% of the population has a mental illness. Now think about how many people you know that might seem…off, but haven’t said anything about it. The stigma is probably one of the worst parts of it – not being able to come out and say Yes, I have BPD. Or Depression. Or…
Admit you have cancer, and the whole world gives you a hand. Say you have a mental illness, and people shun you.
That ain’t right.
Want to see how someone lives with it in a way that only enhances their cool? Yeah, of course you do. I can think of no better example than Lizzie Cracked, who describes it as part of who she is, not the total of who she is.
It’s a great place to start to begin understanding living with a challenge like that. And if you are afraid of those with mental illness, maybe what you read online will change how you act in real life…
But that’s not all!!!
The inestimable Nicole Warner tweeted that October is also National Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
There aren’t a lot of things that get me angry enough to do something stupid. Bad remakes of classic movies, and arc television shows that have crappy payoffs are two of them.
Another is abuse. Anyone in a position of power that takes advantage or abuses someone is…you know what, let’s not go there. I can feel my blood pressure rising as I think about it.
But you can read Nicole’s story here, and see what she did. And if you are in that kind of situation, I can’t urge you strongly enough to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
And if there’s any way you think I can help, let me know.
I’ll be around.
And the final cause I’m pointing out is that it’s Movember.
I have no idea what the hell that means. But according to Becca, guys are supposed to grow mustaches to raise awareness about Prostate and Testicular Cancer.
Women are supposed to make out with guys who have mouth brows.
And all this helps raise awareness (and hopefully money) for cancer research.
Smooching, and cash for a cause. Win/Win!
But before anyone thinks this is a bit too heavy (and October has a few other causes this month), October is also National Dessert Month!!!
How’s that for an ending note?!?
Ok, that covers the serious for the moment. Think about the above. Help out if you can.
And don’t worry, I’ll be back with the inane soon enough…
Guapola 
Great post to remind us. 🙂
x,
Becca
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Thanks Becca. And yet, a pity that we (including me) need to be reminded…
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It really is. There is a stigma to it. It is a shame.
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Guapo,
Thank you for showing your support to Movember.
Le Clown
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You’re welcome. It’s a good cause, LC.
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Can we internet make out ?
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God I love technology, Becca! 😉
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It’s frustrating to me that just because mental illness isn’t physically obvious–like say a fracture or pneumonia–people don’t understand it has biomedical causes just like any other disease. It is not simply “in one’s head,” at least not the way that phrase implies. Thanks for spotlighting it as well as the other issues you mentioned. Including the dessert month. 🙂
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That’s easily the most frustrating thing, Carrie. It also seems like it’s the hardest to get past…
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Good choices, Guap. I do a lot of research on mental health issues and they are sorely misunderstood. We move away as you said. As for abuse, our reaction I think is often worse — denial.
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I think an awful part of abuse is that people tend to blame the victim, Elyse.
Which is probably about as bad (psychologically) as the abuse itself.
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I agree. It is a horrible cycle.
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All great causes, Guapo. I’m glad you had the good sense to tack on National Dessert month, you know, just to give the whole post some needed balance. I think I’ll go have a slice of pie while I contemplate these other issues.
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I would kill someone for a great slice of pie right now, Lisa.
Fortunately, October is not “Don’t Kill Someone For Pie” month, so I think I can get away with it!
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Thank you.
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You’re very welcome, Jots.
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Wonderful Post! I remember your last post on National Mental Illness Awareness Week or was it month? Anyway it was one of my favorite post of yours. I thought it was very well written and brought a unique and important level of compassion to the topic.
So where’s the recipe to that desert? Yum!
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Thanks so much, Starla!
That post (https://guapola.wordpress.com/2012/05/12/people/) and this one are written more or less the way I’d talk if we were sitting in a bar or coffee shop. But a little wordier.
Just click the picture and scroll down for the recipe.
And let me know how it comes out!
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Thanks for the link it was a great read the second time around too! :+)
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Thank you!
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Two ss in dessert of course!
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Ha, I’m the last one to criticize a typo!
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One last comment and I will go away and listen to the music link. I will check out your other links as well Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I didn’t want to leave that out in my comment as the causes you brought to our attention today are all important. :+)
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Thank you! I also enjoy the blog I linked to for that. (And the author’s twitter presence.)
Your comment makes me think I should have also mentioned it was Pharmacist Month.
Nah, probably not…
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Dude…wow three causes all of them worthy and then dessert too… I missed the Domestic Violence one… how about ..it;s breast cancer awareness month too… ok I am stalling cause I am supposed to be writing brilliant stuff to educate and advocate … thanks for the boost – and the support – can;t tell you enough….. and always just when I need it too… which totally reminds me… on the list of dos….
Lucy Im home you got some splainin to do!
It made sense to me anyways…. You continue to Rock, Indubitably!
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Why thank you, LizzieC!
If you hadn’t mentioned this week the other day, I would never have known.
And thank you just for being you.
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Have a wicked rest of day Lizzie
and be good also, I always am 🙂
Androgoth
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I will reply to that with a polite but firm
HA!
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😈 you are huh? lol… 😉
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Well sometimes, you should venture into my Space one of these evenings to find out, just rap on the gates and I will let you in 🙂
Androgoth
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What about beards? Ain’t no regard for them?!
Of course the more important ones are noted and will be supported.
I consider myself well notified now. Thanks.
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As a man currently awash in facial hair, I think our beards simply augment our mustaches, BT.
Any support, or even just thinking about it are wonderful!
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I agree, now how about
a go with my shaver? 🙂 lol
Androgoth
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Everyone needs reminds like this post about important issues. I’ll keep it simple and just say “Well done!”
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Thank you very much, Frank!
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Three great reasons to scour the internet, become more aware and support some fine causes..We only can affect change through awareness & education.
Louis would have said the same thing 🙂
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Couldn’t agree more, Lynne. Better education would make a huge difference in perception.
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Thanks for raising awareness on this, Guap. I said in one of my novels that mental illness is a stigma, but should not be. That’s not really profound. I think most reasonable people know this. But anyway, thanks.
As for me, I haven’t written my “What October Means to Me” post yet. I’m working on it. I’ll give you a one-word hint, though: Pecans. ❤
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Can we expect a recipe with that post, Stacy Lyn?
It’s funny, people generally agree there shouldn’t be such an associated stigma, and yet…
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I’ve literally been accused of looking like Satan when my facial hair in the goatee area gets past a certain length, which isn’t fair, because Satan is clean-shaven. This is an odd combination of things to have in the same month, but I support them all, or worded more appropriately than that.
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And they all appreciate your support, no matter how awkwardly phrased it is.
If I let my goatee grow too long, I start to look David Koresh-ish. Not a good look at all.
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Pics!
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Not gonna happen. Because while I’m getting dangerously close to that length now, I’m trimming it tonight.
I also shave before I go to airports. Decreases the amount of extra searching I go through.
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Gosh, in all of my self-centered worrying about my new medication, I totally missed out that it is National Dessert Month! Thanks for putting me straight!
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As long as we can still celebrate desserts, there is hope for us, wim2s.
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National dessert month!!! This is most excellent news… And makes me feel better about all the sweets I have consumed lately.
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Hey, you can just announce it’s Dessert Day whenever you decide.
Chances are no one is gonna check, imakeeper. And then you can just say it’s your duty!
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You can have some of mine if you like? 🙂
Androgoth
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National SEX month too. Sooooo…Get it while you can. OK….OK…I just made that up BUT…Wouldn’t have been a GREAT idea???
Muah!!!
Sooz
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That’s a GREAT idea, Sooz!
You should start gathering signatures on a petition.
Can’t wait for the promotional videos! 😉
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Now I like the sound of that one 🙂
Androgoth
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ME TOO. Hehehehehehe!!!!
Sooz
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Thank you for reminding us of all of these. The Internet is a good place because of people like you.
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Thanks Waiting!
But it’s because of people like us in our general online community.
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I didn’t know there were so many awareness months around until I got on WordPress… Feels like we’re making the world better, doesn’t it? 🙂
I’ll be as aware as I can be. (Especially about that dessert thing.) (No, about everything.) (Really!)
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I was shocked to see how many things were highlighted this month, NBI.
No wonder so much gets missed!
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Nice post, Guap. All worthy of attention and recognition. Now…dessert month, huh? Hmmmm….
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Now you just need to find the appropriate wine to accompany the dessert, kayjai!
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Going to share on FB. Hope you’re doing well!
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Thanks Lisa.
I’m doing alright.
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Great post!
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Much obliged, RFL!
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I’m looking forward to having some blogging shenaingans based around Movember. I won’t attempt growing one, it comes out grey. I’m usually covered in stubble which is as long as I allow before I look like a hobo, and someone questioned this last week and said it looked odd in that I have brown hair and a grey beard. And there was me thinking I looked distinguished (reaches for the Just For Men).
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Maybe you could shave your cat, Joe?
I have dark hair, but my chin mostly grows in white.
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I’m not alone! Great. Shave her and just leave a mustache, she’d be pissed!
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Thanks for this my friend. I love what Lizzie Cracked said about describing mental illness “as part of who she is, not the total of who she is.” I feel that way about my “addiction affliction” too. It’s not visible on the outside, but it is certainly a *part* of who I am and why I am. But I am so much more than just that “part” too.
In honor of desserts, I think I will eat cookies all month. (Like I need an excuse, right?)
And I love the song. A timeless classic. You know the Eva version right? I shared it, but I’m not sure if we had connected yet or not- here’s her version:
Have a fantastic week, thanks again for the post.
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Thanks, RoS – that’s a great version!
I think Lizzie’s comment is probably the best way to describe it I’ve ever heard.
Glad you liked the post, and keep on rockin! (and runnin!)
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Why am I so freaking hungry now!?
In all seriousness, I’m often surprised how uninformed people are about domestic violence. It’s shocking how many people think abusers wear signs when in reality it’s far more insidious, and many times it’s damn near invisible.
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And the victims get conditioned to deny it or blame themselves, L&L.
Seriously, seeing/hearing about something like that is the easiest way to get me to lose my cool.
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Thanks for bringing this to everyone’s attention Guap! People too often forget the “silent sufferers” who are just trying to live their lives. Too many of us never let anyone know the difficulties we are struggling with because of the stigma attached. And I can certainly get behind Dessert Month! (of course it will end up on my behind if I overindulge)
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Thanks Benze!
And go you for talking about it.
And desserts. 😉
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Good causes all, and well said as per usual. I was never able to get away with a mustache. Is a goatee acceptable? And Louis Armstrong on the one end with that dish on the other is a sweet set of bookends.
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Goatee is definitely acceptable, Cayman.
And that second version was great, wasn’t it.
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That’s great stuff.
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I ♥ U, dude. Thank you SO MUCH for telling other people about DV Awareness Month and spreading the word about my story–and maybe propelling someone else to safety. Much love! ~Nicole
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Your story is incredible, Nicole. And the way you’ve lived since then is inspirational (in the least sappy sense of the word.)
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This is a great posting El Guapo
and I will be thinking about what you
have added about mental illness,
as you say there are many levels
of same and one should never judge
another based on something that is
not understood, indeed judging is
something rather insulting I think 😦
As for the moustache idea, well there
is no way that I am going to look like
a rat looking over a scrubbing brush
for anyone so hard lines girls 🙂 😉 lmao
I like the dessert graphic, actually there
has to be a spare spoon knocking around
here somewhere and when i find it…
Well I will be enjoying the deliciousness
of those sweet cherries, I like to add those
to a fine pair of… Never mind 🙂 lol
Enjoy your afternoon El Guapo
and be wicked I always am 🙂 🙂
Androgoth
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We don’t stand on ceremony here, Androgoth. Feel free to use your fingers.
Or someone else’s if they’re agreeable. 😉
I couldn’t agree more about the judging what isn’t understood. As with most things, I think education as to the signs and symptoms of various conditions makes them easier for the rest of us to grasp when we run into those affected. And there are times when most of us fall into a depressive, or manic or other frame of mind.
(Really hope that doesn’t come off as pompous as it looks…)
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Not pompous at all my wickedly fine
friend, indeed I agree wholeheartedly 🙂
Have a great evening El Guapo…
Androgoth
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And don’t worry, I’ll be back with the inane soon enough…
Whereas I have found a way to make everything I say inane.
I never get tired of “What a Wonderful World.” It IS a wonderful world, despite the heartbreaking BS we so often have to wade through.
I agree with you regarding the stigmatization of mental illness. I’d say that we need to further look at some mental illnesses and determine whether they ARE mental illnesses. Please don’t misunderstand me. I don’t meant to make light of these conditions or say they don’t exist, but to look at some of them in context. In this case I’m referring specifically to ADD. As may be obvious (or maybe not–it seems obvious to me) I have ADD. However, I have a hard time considering it an illness, because so much of how my brain works is what makes me the person that I am. Yes, I fight a constant battle to stay organized; my office is littered with lists and reminders; my wife tells me sometimes a week before she wants me to do something, and then reminds me every day (it may sound like it, but it’s not nagging) until the day of the task; decision-making can be difficult. But for all that my brain responds for me in wonderful ways; it keeps me laughing at my own jokes; it’s easy to think laterally; to think in metaphor; every thought brings a host of complimentary thoughts. I wouldn’t trade my brain for a “normal” brain.
ADD is so often used as an excuse by people for why they haven’t attained the things they want. I recognize that it’s significant in its way, but we are not broken and moreover, should not be defined by our ‘illness.”
As I said, though, I am very glad to see a renewed focus and hopefully a de-stigmatization of mental illness.
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My only problem with “What A Wonderful World” is that it’s too short, Smak.
I agree about the rush to label. There are those that have a serious chemical imbalance. But there is also a rush (especially for children) to medicate them as fast as possible. And many kids, at some point, show the behavior of ADD/ADHD without having the chemical issues, just because they’re kids.
In any case, whatever the mental condition, the stigma is definitely something we could do without.
(My wife constantly has to remind me of stuff too. but that’s because I’m lazy.)
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It always takes me a while to get here, but when I finally do, I read, listen and always – I SAY ALWAYS learn something new! Thank you for letting me know about all things October ( and I had no idea about Movember!!). Keep on keepin’ on!
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Thanks Carmen!
Don’t tell anyone you’re learning stuff here or I’ll lose my street cred.
Unless it’s “learning a cautionary tale”…
Glad you found something worthwhile here, and it’s a pleasure to see you, wherever you turn up!
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I’ll tell you a cautionary tale!! (Morbid joke if you know my story. HAD to go there, just HAD to!)
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Yeah, but your tale has a great second act! 😉
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I had no idea there were so many worthy causes in October. But now I do and thank you for bringing more awareness to them. This post was a good reminder to step aside form the rushing river of activities and ponder . . .
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Thank you, Linda.
I agree – it’s way too easy to just get caught up in the little things and forget everything else.
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A lot of people still refer to mental illness with sayings such as, “satan in your head”, infact, i was having a discussion with a christian woman who said that today, if I had bit my lip any harder i wouldve exploded. She was 2 years younger than me, something needs to be done, because parents are passing on their views to their children and its catching.
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Your restraint is waaaay better than mine, Rays.
Having ones head up ones ass is as incurable as many other conditions.
Sadly, it isn’t stigmatized at all.
And I agree – I think the effort educating people makes is the only way to change perceptions.
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to be honest, the response I felt at her sheer ignorance and narrow view roared up an emotion which I couldn’t even vocalize or put into words… im very rarely left speechless, but shes my age, shes not supposed to be so ignorant. I wouldve just breathed fire out of my mouth and lost my job.
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Let us send prayers to those who are suffering from mental illness. May they receive understanding and more love from people, friends and family around them.
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Amen, ristinw.
And understanding form everyone else too.
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Because this week is observed by groups and organizations within communities, it is also an opportunity to build relationships with and partner with public health organizations and community groups in your area, such as the local chapter of NAMI, (National Alliance for the Mentally Ill). Together you can make a public witness to raise awareness about mental illness, prevention, treatment and advocate for effective public policy including access to adequate mental health care in your community.
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